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佛教徒伴侶關係煩惱之觀察與調伏：以薩提爾冰山系統為方法=Observation and Transformation in the Relationship Distress of Buddhist Couples : Using the Satir Iceberg System as a Method |
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| 著者 |
謝欣惠 (著)
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| 掲載誌 |
正觀雜誌=Satyabhisamaya: A Buddhist Studies Quarterly
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| 巻号 | n.109 |
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| 出版年月日 | 2024.06.25 |
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| ページ | 143 - 211 |
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| 出版者 | 正觀雜誌社 |
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| 出版サイト |
http://www.tt034.org.tw/
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| 出版地 | 南投縣, 臺灣 [Nantou hsien, Taiwan] |
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| 資料の種類 | 期刊論文=Journal Article |
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| 言語 | 中文=Chinese |
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| キーワード | 佛教徒=Buddhists; 伴侶關係煩惱=relationship issues; 薩提爾模式=Satir Model; 家庭如何塑造人=how family shapes individuals; 改變歷程=transformative process; 內在冰山=internal iceberg; 未了情節=unresolved issues; 轉化=transformation; 調伏 |
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| 抄録 | 本文從筆者心理諮商實務工作的觀察與經驗出發，以遇到 「伴侶關係煩惱」的「佛教徒」為觀察對象，介紹薩提爾模式 如何介入、改變、轉化當事人的內在受苦，並重新選擇關係和 應對方式。
所有人都會在伴侶關係中感受到痛苦，需要共同面對討論 處理，以化解煩惱，佛教徒除了這些普遍性的煩惱外，有些人 會因為佛教信仰而增添更多的苦和煩惱，導致對自己、佛法教 義、師父/師兄姊/同修產生懷疑，失去信仰上的信心。筆者認 為這並非佛法教導的目標與用意，以薩提爾模式對「家庭如何 塑造人」的角度和脈絡，筆者大膽假設，信徒會因為教義而增添煩惱，是因為用了過去的舊有的學習模式、思維、行動，以 自己的角度理解教義所致。因此，幫助當事人面對煩惱，並且 以不否認當事人的信仰學習，恰當地運用學佛的經驗作資源， 更是本文所要傳達的重點。
本文先整理當事人的「伴侶關係類型」，及加深煩惱的佛 法教導，接著，介紹薩提爾模式的基本概念和轉化目標，進而 詳述諮商的改變歷程四階段，每一個階段心理師如何接觸當事 人，引導探索內在冰山各層次。通過肯定、分化、暫時擱置佛 法教義等方法，幫助當事人如實坦承內在所思所想所執，覺察 過去原生家庭的經驗對現在的影響，以及覺察用過去舊有習性 理解現在佛法的誤解可能，說明心理師如何協助處理當事人過 去未了情節，調伏過去烙印在內在的僵化執著我，並運用學佛 的正向經驗協助混亂脆弱的過程，最後能鬆動放下過去的影響， 整合現在的我，找出面對關係的新方法，並整合佛法教導，持 續未來的修行之路。
最後，說明佛法教導與薩提爾模式相似、差異之處，及薩 提爾模式能夠輔助修行之處，在於當事人從不一致或混亂自我， 邁向健康成熟一致性自我。
This article is based on the author's observations and experiences in the field of counseling psychology, focusing on individuals who are "Buddhists" experiencing "relationship issues." The examination posits an exploration of the potential efficacy of the Satir Model as an intervention mechanism to effectuate transformative change in the internal anguish of individuals, thereby propelling them towards novel relational choices and adaptive coping strategies.
Everyone experiences pain in their intimate relationships, and it requires joint efforts to discuss and resolve it. Aside from enduring conventional distress, some Buddhists may experience additional suffering due to their religious conviction, leading to doubts about themselves, Buddhist teachings, their spiritual guides or fellow practitioners. The author believes that this is not the intended goal of Buddhist teachings. From the perspective and context in Satir Model about "how family shapes individuals", the author boldly assumes that followers of Buddhism encounter distress because they interpret Buddhist teachings through their existing patterns of learning, thinking, and behaving. Therefore, helping individuals confront their distress without denying their beliefs, and appropriately using their experiences in Buddhist learning as resources, is a key point conveyed in this article.
The article begins by categorizing the individuals' "types of intimate relationships" and delves into Buddhist teachings that contribute to distress. Subsequently, it introduces the basic concepts and transformation goals of the Satir Model, detailing the four stages of the counseling's transformative process. In each stage, the psychologist engages with the individuals, guiding them to explore various layers of their internal iceberg. Through methods such as affirmation, differentiation, and temporarily setting aside Buddhist doctrines, the article helps individuals acknowledge their inner thoughts and beliefs honestly. It also raises awareness about how past experiences in the original family influence the present and recognizes the probability of misunderstanding Buddhist teachings stemming from past habits. The article further explains how psychologists assist in handling unresolved issues from the past, adjusting rigid attachments, and utilizing positive experiences from Buddhist learning to navigate in the chaotic and vulnerable process. The ultimate goal is to loosen the impact of the past, integrate the present self, discover new approaches to relationships, and harmonize Buddhist teachings into the ongoing journey of spiritual development.
In conclusion, the article highlights the similarities and differences between Buddhist teachings and the Satir Model. It emphasizes how the Satir Model can assist in spiritual practice, particularly in guiding individuals from inconsistent or confused selves toward a healthy, mature, and coherent self.
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| 目次 | 前言
一、 佛教徒伴侶關係煩惱之觀察
二、佛教基本意涵與薩提爾模式的相似
三、佛教徒伴侶關係難題類型與諮商期待
(一) 在超越中疏離
(二) 拯救與控制的救渡關係
(三) 暴力糾纏的關係
四、薩提爾模式介紹
(一) 自我價值、求生存姿態
(二) 一致性
(三) 個人內在冰山隱喻
(四) 個人內在冰山的轉譯
(五) 改變歷程的四大目標、五大要素
五、個人內在冰山的改變與調伏四階段—佛法的擱置與介入
(一) 建立安全信任關係—探索與建立諮商目標
(二) 拓展探索與覺察：揭露內在冰山歷程，邁向第一個
層次一致性
(三) 改變與轉化：轉化過去影響、整合到現在--一致性
的第二、第三層次
(四) 整合與回到關係中落實改變--關係的一致性
結論
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| ISSN | 16099575 (P) |
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| ヒット数 | 151 |
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| 作成日 | 2024.08.21 |
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| 更新日期 | 2024.08.21 |
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