How do we resolve hatred and anger in the face of adversities and the conflicts of interpersonal relationships and in turn harmonize them? By understanding the changes and blows Milarepa encountered, we can see how he went from loss, conscientious awareness, improvement on the quality of life, the annihilation of hatred to the final mercy, tolerance, tranquility and easiness. Many distresses derive from confusion, which makes one unable to find the solution. Revenge is the source of regrets and pains, while understanding and forgiveness can bring about the harmony of physique and spirit. We can follow Milarepa, refusing to pain ourselves further, dealing with the problems with people and society correctly, transcending the limits of one's mundane life, not being victimized by further harms and vicious circles, and in turn developing our virtues, enhancing our happiness and achieving the wholeness of life. Other than the foreword and the conclusion, this article proceeds along six sections-first, the adversities, second, the transformation from pains to happiness, third, the transformation from hatred to mercy, fourth, the transformation from evil to good, fifth, the transformation from sins to confessions, and sixth, the transformation from mortal to divine-to explore how Buddhist counseling offers the right solution and healing for pains, adversities, emotions, morality and spirit.
